A 31-YEAR-OLD man ended up on his family's bad graces after he rejected his girlfriend's petition that he adopt her son.
The 29-year-old woman had been diagnosed with cancer and was scared of what would happen to her son if she didn't overcome it.
Taking to Reddit where he could ask people's opinions about his action, the man went into the details.
"I met my ex-girlfriend on a dating app ~seven years ago," he revealed.
"She had a son (six months at the time, she was with multiple guys and ended up pregnant, still doesn't know who's the bio father), but it wasn't that much of an issue since she seemed like a great person and we had a lot in common.
"After a few weeks of chatting and talking online, we went on a first date and had a great time. After that, we just started hanging out whenever she could, and shortly after she introduced me to her son."
He then explained that a few months into their relationship, they moved in together to save money.
He continued: "I started helping take care of her child whenever I could and we really grew fond of each other, he even started calling me 'papa' and we just went along with it since my girlfriend didn't mind.
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"Almost five years into our relationship, she told me that she wants to break up because I became boring and not an active person like I used to be (we used to go on hikes and travel around the country on weekends) and that I work too much.
"It was a rough time after that and I had a hard time accepting it (although not as hard as having to explain to a five-year-old that he'll no longer be seeing his papa) but I managed to get over it after a few months, found a better job that allowed me to work remotely and had a lot of free time so I managed to explore few other countries.
"A few days ago, I got a call from my ex. She said that she is sick and is in hospital, they removed one of her breasts but recently they found a tumor in her other breast and will need to have it removed as well.
"She is scared that she might die if it doesn't work out and asked me if I would be willing to become her son's legal guardian and adopt him since she has no one else to ask.
"I live a different lifestyle now, travel a lot, and invest in myself, so I told her that I can't do that. She told me that her son misses me and would love to see me, but I said no again and she started crying and calling me names, before cutting the call.
"I talked to my sister and parents about this and they told me that it's a f**ked up thing to refuse it, after all those years spent with them. I feel like trash now.
"Am I the a**hole for not wanting to adopt my 'dying' ex-girlfriend's child?"
After posting his story. to the social media platform, many people rushed to the comments and many surprisngly sided with him.
One person wrote: "If my math is right, you broke up about two years ago, which is a long time for a young child. Of course, we would remember you but it's not like you're close at this point.
"The chances of her dying in the short term are pretty low. Letting her know you are not available allows her to make different plans in the longer term."
A second one commented: "She dropped you because you were too 'boring' apparently. Now she realizes that you weren't boring, but responsible because no one else I guess that she finds 'fun' wanted to step up and take responsibility.
"While it sucks for the kid, the mom is to blame for that, not you. She made very poor choices in life and now she has to realize she is responsible for what will likely happen to her kid if she dies. You bear no responsibility here."
And a third person said: "It's a sad situation but not your problem anymore. You weren't good enough when she broke it off but now you are suddenly? Not to sound cold, but come on."
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