How women can achieve equality between the sheets so they enjoy their sex lives as much as men – The Sun

WOMEN know all about the gender pay gap. We also know from bitter, dishwasher-stacking experience that women still do more of the unpaid housework.

But are you aware that things are as unequal in the bedroom? Yes, there’s an orgasm gap – and surprise, surprise, we’re on the wrong side of it.

A Public Health England survey last year found that almost half of women aged 25 to 34 do not have an “enjoyable” sex life, while in 2017 a study found that only 65 per cent of straight women “usually orgasm” during sex, compared to 95 per cent of men, and 86 per cent of lesbian women.*

Increasingly, researchers are looking into what’s been termed orgasm inequality.

“The research shows the biggest gap exists in hook-up or casual sex and gets smaller in relationship sex, but it never closes altogether,” says Laurie Mintz, a professor of psychology at the University of Florida.

“In studies I’ve conducted, 55 per cent of men orgasm during first-time hook-up sex compared to just four per cent of women. It’s a huge gap.” So what will it take for us to get equality between the sheets?

Sex ed revisited

“THE number one factor driving the orgasm gap is that women are not getting the clitoral stimulation they need,” says Laurie, who’s also the author of Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters And How To Get It.

The clitoris is the female pleasure centre, with thousands of nerve endings (twice as many as the penis, FYI).

And while only the tip sits outside the body, the whole organ is shaped like a wishbone and can actually be up to five inches long, extending up inside the pelvis and around the vagina.

“Research suggests that when women pleasure themselves, the majority touch their external clitoris, and almost all reach orgasm this way,” says Laurie. “Very few women orgasm from penetration alone.”

According to Dr Catherine Hood, a consultant in psychosexual medicine at London’s St George’s Hospital, there is no single best position for female orgasm, but some will be better than others for clitoral stimulation.

Very few women orgasm from penetration alone.

“What’s best for you will depend on your anatomy – and his anatomy,” she says.

For example, the distance between the clitoris and the vaginal opening may affect how likely someone is to orgasm through penetrative sex – and for some women this may just not be possible.

And you can call off the search for your G-spot (a cluster of nerve endings believed to be particularly pleasurable), because this is largely considered an urban myth by scientists.

It’s been suggested that what some women call their G-spot is actually their internal clitoris.

Know yourself

“IF I’ve got a patient who’s struggling to orgasm, the first thing I ask is whether they can get there alone,” says Dr Hood.

“It’s still a bit of a taboo topic and some women feel they shouldn’t masturbate, especially in a relationship.

"But I always encourage them to try, because if you don’t know yourself it’s going to be much more difficult for your partner.”

There are female-friendly online resources that can help you discover what turns you on. For instance, offers short videos and interactive graphics designed to teach practical techniques for a one-off payment from £39.

Plus, proceeds go towards funding research in the field, too. But even when you know what you like, many women don’t feel able to ask for it.

“Research shows that if you teach women about their clitoris, the frequency of their orgasms increases during masturbation, but not with a partner. Women think it’s too pushy to say what they want,” says Laurie.

If you don’t know yourself it’s going to be much more difficult for your partner.

According to sex educator Kim Loliya, aids such as vibrators can be helpful. “But while women will use these on their own, many are reluctant to introduce them into partner sex,” she says.

To tackle this stigma, brands are designing less intimidating products with female pleasure – and partner sex – in mind. Check out Smile Makers, which also has a quiz on its website to help you choose a product best suited for you (and your other half).

If you’re still struggling to get there, it’s worth visiting your GP, who will be able to help you rule out any underlying issues that might be affecting your ability to achieve orgasm

Body con

FEELING self-conscious is a serious and widespread problem when it comes to female sexual pleasure, says Dr Hood.

“To reach orgasm, two things have to happen: you need to be physically aroused, and you also need to be in the moment.

"Physically, an orgasm is an uncontrolled contraction of the uterine and vaginal muscles, but psychologically it’s a moment of losing control. And this letting go can’t happen if you’re thinking about how you look.”

There are no simple answers to improving body image and self-esteem, but if this is something you struggle with, one practical step is to be mindful of who you follow on social media.

A study by body image researchers in 2016 looked at how women felt after viewing pictures of attractive celebrities and peers on Instagram, and found it significantly increased negative mood and body dissatisfaction.**

Under pressure

AS Love Island’s Maura Higgins found out this summer, there’s still a sexual double standard when it comes to female pleasure.

“Women who talk about enjoying sex worry about being slut-shamed, or if they don’t enjoy sex they may feel pressured to have it,” says Laurie, adding that it’s difficult to have an orgasm if you’re worrying about being judged.

“Women need to give themselves permission to enjoy sex,” agrees Dr Hood – and this doesn’t mean only focusing on reaching climax.

“It’s like waiting for a bus – the more you look down the road, the longer it takes to arrive. Instead of focusing on that end point, enjoy the intimacy and follow the pleasure.”

Let’s talk about sex

EXPERTS agree that the key to better sex is communication, which is easier said than done when it’s such a sensitive topic – and when fragile egos are involved.

"But being frank takes the pressure off both of you", says Dr Hood.

“Otherwise, the responsibility is on the man. Whether or not you orgasm becomes a badge of his ability, which isn’t fair. Focusing on how you feel is better than anything that sounds like blame,” says Kim.

“Rather than saying: ‘You always do this,’ say: ‘When such and such happens, I feel…’ Also, state your needs in simple terms, such as: ‘I need more time.’”

It’s also important to say when something’s not working. “Women often put up with sex they’re not enjoying, but it gets trickier to address as time goes on,” says Kim.

“This usually leads to a couple no longer having sex and then it becomes difficult to reconnect, because the man feels rejected without explanation.”

Finally, try not to resort to faking it. “It’s important to look at why a woman feels they have to fake orgasm,” says Kim.

“It’s usually not just ideas from porn or Hollywood – it’s worries such as a preoccupation with seeming normal. It’s dangerous in the long run because it erodes trust.

"If your partner finds out, they’ll be devastated. Being honest in the short-term could save your relationship in the long-term.”

  • *Chapman University, Indiana University and the Kinsey Institute **Flinders University
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Parents share their children’s laughably poor attempts at hide and seek – The Sun

THESE children are on a hiding to nothing with their comical attempts to play hide and seek.

Parents have been posting pics online of their little cherubs’ efforts.

They include toddlers trying to take cover behind a curtain, under a throw and beneath sofa cushions.

Others hide under a sheepskin rug — and even inside a clear plastic box.

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Heidi Klum Proudly Shows Off Wedding Ring During Romantic Honeymoon With Tom Kaulitz

Heidi Klum couldn’t help but grin while flaunting her sparkly wedding ring during her honeymoon with husband Tom Kaulitz. Her ring is almost as gorgeous as she is!

Rub it in, why don’t you? Heidi Klum showed off her gorgeous wedding ring in an adorable boomerang video on Instagram on August 15, looking happier than ever. Heidi, 46, who just married Tokio Hotel rocker Tom Kaulitz, 29, is still on her never-ending honeymoon, and it definitely suits her. In the boomerang, apparently taken by Tom himself, Heidi is beaming and wiggling her left hand next to her face to flaunt her delicate, gold ring. She’s practically glowing as she relaxes in a sundress and oversized, mirrored shades on the coast of the Italian isle of Capri. You can see the cute clip below!

She shared another post dedicated to her wedding ring the same day. The pic, which you can also see below, is a closeup of Heidi and Tom’s grasped hands, showing off both of their rings while they chill on what appears to be a yacht. She captioned the pic with a sweet message in their native German: “Ich geh mit Dir wohin Du willst…auch bis ans Ende dieser Welt…. am Meer am Strand wo S…❤️🎵🎶” Translated into English, that reads, “I go with you wherever you want… even to the end of this world… by the sea on the beach.” Aww!

In case it wasn’t clear that they’re head over heels in love with each other, she also posted a video of herself and Tom kissing while at lunch on the beach. She truly hasn’t stopped smiling throughout this entire trip.


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So, what’s next after the honeymoon eventually ends? A source close to the former model told HollywoodLife EXCLUSIVELY that it’s all about enjoying their new marriage right now, and not rushing into adding kids to their family. “Heidi’s had conversations with Tom and right now they’re perfect with the love they have for each other and the life they’ve built together,” the source said. “They’re such a force as a couple and love each other so much, and that’s all that matters to them.”

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Male strippers reveal how they’re prey to ‘female sexual aggression’ after Katy Perry claim – The Sun

STANDING in the middle of a roaring crowd, a scantily-clad dancer is grabbed and fondled by members of the audience.

But this isn't a seedy strip club full of men, it's a stripshow, where the people being groped are men – and the frenzied crowd are women. 

It’s the kind of behaviour that was highlighted this week by Josh Kloss, who alleged that nine years ago pop superstar Katy Perry had pulled at the waistband of his pants and underwear to expose his penis at a party. 

While the pop star has denied the allegations, his claim has sent shockwaves through the showbusiness world. 

His accusations have been dubbed #SheToo – as they're a reversal of the #MeToo allegations which have dominated the music and film industry for the last eighteen months, sparked by a wave of sexual abuse allegations against disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein.

While statistics show that most victims of sexual harassment and assault are women, Kloss's claims have encouraged other men to come forward and talk about their experiences.

Here, three male strippers reveal the shocking ways women have treated them.

'They see me as a slab of muscle'

"If you put a large group of a single gender together and mix it with alcohol then things get tribal and raunchy very quickly – and that goes every bit as strongly to women as men," says  stripper Javier Markham, 29, who has been stripping for five years.

"There isn’t a bit of my body that hasn’t been touched during my time stripping – things that a woman would slap a man for if they did it to them happen all the times: women grope your balls, or try and get hold of your penis."

"On one occasion I had someone yank on my penis during a show, which was pretty painful and shocking. I’ve had girls lick the back of my neck, which is a weirdly intimate thing to do.

"Scratching is a big one too – a lot of girls have got these long nails which they dig into your back. Don’t get me wrong – I have never felt threatened. I’m a big guy and I can handle myself but sometimes it’s like they see you as a slab of muscle that nothing can hurt.’

'She walked me round the floor like a dog'

Fellow stripper Peter, 30, agrees. A stripper for several years – his go-to outfit for ladies nights and on the  is a SWAT team member   – he says that sometimes it seems that the female audience ‘forget you’re a human being.’

"At the end of a show I go round the crowd with nothing on. I will mess around with my penis – I’m not flicking it in their faces, it’s a tease – but I’ve had girls try and jump in front of it and stick it in their mouth,’ he says. ‘The first time I was pretty shocked but I’ve got used to it.’ 

Like Javier, Peter has also regularly been scratched, while early on in his stripping career he was left bleeding from his penis when a woman jumped on stage and grabbed his genitals. 

‘I had a flag wrapped round me and this woman jumped on to the stage, dragged the flag away then dug her claws into my penis and tried to walk me round the floor like a dog. I was actually bleeding,’ he says. ‘That was pretty bad. I had a girlfriend at the time and it was difficult explaining it to her too.’

'Women can be sexually aggressive too'

The sexual aggression of female audiences also extends to the way they talk to you, adds Javier. 

"It’s interesting because it’s a reversal of what happens in a club, when usually men are competing with other men for the attention of one beautiful girl," he says. 

"When I strip at a ladies nights I am often the only man and you have all these women competing with each other for your attention.  I get them saying things to me like ‘I could take you outside and show you things you haven’t dreamed of,’" he says.

"Hen nights are pretty bad: I’ve had every kind of offer under the sun, from mother of the bride to the bride herself, the bridesmaids.

"I get given hotel room numbers, other times the women just come out with it straight: ‘let’s f*ck’.

"The one last night of freedom thing that people associate with stag dos is just as strong for women – it’s the person not the gender."

'One hen text me from her honeymoon and wanted sex'

Peter agrees that hen nights are ‘the worst by far’.

"They are often very sexually forward," he says.

"About four months in to my first job as a stripper I had a show where there was a very beautiful hen and during the show she asked for my number and then asked me to come back to her hotel room. 

"I should have known better but I went back and it was only because her sister was there and talked sense into her that we didn’t have sex.

"But it didn’t stop her messaging me all the time from her honeymoon – and we met the minute she got back. It doesn’t reflect well on me either – but it gives you a flavour of the way women behave on these occasions whatever their circumstances." 

Peter is keen to emphasise that he’s not asking for sympathy  – he loves his job and knew what he was letting himself in for.

But he admits there are times he has been left uncomfortable by the ‘hands-on’ nature of his female audiences. "You don’t go into this game if you’re a shrinking violet. The attention is great –  but the way you get manhandled sometimes it’s like you’re a commodity," he says.

'They put money in my boxers'

Kelvin Valentine,  a 25-year-old stripper of a year and a half’s standing has also been jumped on, scratched and on occasions had alcohol thrown over him when he has descended from stage into the crowd.

He says women’s behaviour is worse at the end or beginning of the month ‘because it’s pay day.’

"I have had situations where women will refuse to let me leave their part of the audience, they are literally grabbing my arm," he adds.

"I also get money thrown at me sometimes  – the girls will come close to the stage and throw down five or ten pound notes or try and stuff them in my boxer shorts. I don’t see it as bad behaviour though: when you are on stage they treat you like you’re a superhero or a celebrity and then when you are on their level they  don’t know how to handle it. I just laugh it off."


While the strippers may be sick of being 'groped' 'manhandled' and 'treated like commodities', they stress that the women never make them feel frightened or vulnerable – just a tad degraded. 

 "You’ve got to be thick-skinned to do what we do and basically if you’re not up for what it is then you’re not going to make it," says Javier.

"I won’t lie – what man doesn’t want beautiful women screaming their name and offering sex? It’s the dream.

"At the same time there is a double standard there in the way that society sees strippers which can work for and against you. As men you get more freedom –  but not as much empathy if something goes wrong."

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Woman, 21, reveals the creepy messages men send her DAILY – including endless requests for her to be a sugar baby

CONFESSION time: the not-so-fun part of using dating apps is the weird messages you will inevitably receive from matches at one point or another.

But while most of us can brush them off as an annoying rarity, one woman has opened up about the creepy direct messages she gets sent EVERYDAY on Twitter – including men who are begging for her to be their sugar baby.

Ruth – who uses the Twitter handle @_ruthlless_ shared just a select few of the messages she regularly gets sent in a bid to "expose the creeps".

The 21-year-old woman, from St Helens, often gets requests from men asking to be her sugardaddy and asking if she will "sell pics".

Posting some of the worst messages she's been sent (including one of a naked woman suspended out of a window), Ruth wrote: "When I see the messages, it worries me.

"I think, 'how have they found me?' and 'what is their motive?'"

Although Ruth started out by listing each message alphabetically, she then claims to have run out of letters as she has such a large backlog of DMs to choose from.

Describing herself as a "pervert hunter", Ruth added: "I will never tell them my personal information.

"Having said that, it can be scary when you don't know what lengths people will go to – they could be anyone."

Unsurprisingly, Ruth's tweets have struck a chord with other users.

One replied: "Really disturbing the amount of weirdos on here."

Another added: "This has been an absolute rollercoaster of emotions."

What is a sugar daddy and how does the relationship work?

  • A sugar daddy is a generous older man who spends lavishly on his mistress, girlfriend or boyfriend
  • A sugar baby, meanwhile, is normally an attractive younger woman who can't afford her luxury lifestyle
  • The couple will usually establish a financial agreement early on – as well as their boundaries, such as whether or not they're considering a sexual relationship.
  •  Some sugar babies ask for a monthly allowance, while other get 'expenses' in the form of glam holidays and shopping sprees.
  •  Like Chloe, a growing number of sugar babies are university students, who turn to their 'daddy' to pay their fees
  • The key difference between sugar babies and escorts is that a sugar daddy relationship is a regular arrangement

For more relationship stories, this student hide in her boyfriend's boot to snare her "two-faced" friend who was trying to sleep with him – and caught her with her pants down.

And this scorned mum is exposing Tinder love-rats by forwarding their d**k pics to their wives and girlfriends.

Plus a wedding guest who wore a VERY low-cut boob-baring dress has been accused of "stealing the spotlight".

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Wedding shamers slam couple who tied the knot wearing swimwear and had a penis on their cake – The Sun

A GUEST has slammed a “gross” wedding that saw a bride and groom wear swimwear to say their I dos, and decorate their wedding cake with a penis.

Taking to Reddit, user SuperterraneanAlien shared three snaps from the couple’s big day.

The first sees the newlyweds posing in their wedding attire, with the bride dressed in a bejewelled bikini while the groom wears nothing more than a speedo.

In the second photo, the bride has added a sheer lace cover up to her ensemble and is seen posing with her very risqué wedding cake.

In the third snap you are treated to a close-up look at the very detailed cake, which features the bride’s hand recreated in icing, holding a replica of the groom’s penis.

The cake is iced with the words “To Have and to Hold.”

It’s violently gross, idk what goes through these people’s heads. Probably not a lot

Captioning his post the Redditor wrote: “Absolutely shaming this. The caption was ‘not gonna lie she captured more than just my heart’”

Fellow users were equally horrified by the risqué nuptials, with the post receiving dozens of comments.

One wrote: “Both trashy. They deserve each other.”

Another wrote: “It’s violently gross, idk what goes through these people’s heads. Probably not a lot.”

“Massively tacky and gross” said a third, while a fourth wrote: “This is absolutely disgusting and so so trashy.”

The photo was shared on the subreddit r/weddingshaming.

The group has almost 30,000 members and is described as a "place to shame wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding party, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors… you name it, we shame it!"

In other wedding news, a bridesmaid in a very low-cut boob-baring dress has been accused of "stealing the spotlight."

Meanwhile this groom got so drunk at his own wedding that his furious mother-in-law was forced to feed him by hand. 

We also revealed how a groom has been blasted for wearing shorts and trainers to his wedding.

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Prince George and Princess Charlotte ‘lean on each other’ because play dates with outsiders can be ‘tricky’, royal source claims

WITH less than a two-year age gap, it's no surprise that royal siblings Prince George and Princess Charlotte are incredibly close.

And now, one royal insider has claimed it could be because the pair – aged six and four – are "leaning on each other" as play dates with outsiders can be "tricky".

Speaking to People magazine, a source explained: "They are close in age, and they spend so much time together.

"Play dates [with outsiders] can be tricky, so they learn to lean on each other.'

George and Charlotte are often spotted playing together and in recent months especially, the royal kids have been photographed joking around as well as chasing a football together at a charity polo match in July.

And when mum Kate Middelton, 37, unveiled her Chelsea Flower Show garden in May, George and Charlotte were pictured sitting next to each other while dipping their toes in a stream.

The insider pointed out that the kids do seem to have different personalities, with George a little "more reserved" while Princess Charlotte – who was pictured cheekily sticking her tongue out last week – is "more outgoing".

And with Prince Louis now almost 18 months old, it's thought all three of the Cambridge kids will be the best of pals once they're a little older, especially with Charlotte set to join George at his £19,000-a-year school, Thomas's Battersea in September.

“She can’t wait to be with George at big school,” says the insider.

“She is so excited about it all.”

In other royal news, we told you Kate Middleton beats Meghan Markle in YouGov royal popularity poll – while Prince Harry trumped Prince William.

We also revealed the Queen’s must-have high-street beauty products including £22 Elizabeth Arden lipstick and £8 Essie nail polish.

And we told you how Meghan Markle ‘flew to Ibiza on a private jet with Prince Harry and son Archie Harrison for a six-day birthday break’.

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How to wear… the new maxi dress

The maxi dress has had a bit of a makeover. Critics are calling this new iteration the “midaxi” or the “mixi”, but it’s basically a slightly shorter, vastly more wearable hemline that stops just above your ankle.

Last week, we discussed the flattering properties of the cropped trouser, and the new maxi offers many of the same benefits. Unlike the classic floor-sweeper style, it shows a hint of skin, so you’re not completely swamped by skirt. It’s cool and breezy while providing more coverage than summer’s minis, and that extra flash of leg makes it a good deal less formal, greatly reducing the risk of looking try-hard.

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Though usually reserved for the warmer months, this revamped maxi will serve you well into autumn/winter too – it appeared on the catwalks at Givenchy in dreamy micro-pleated florals and at Alexander McQueen in sleek monochrome, worn with flat, clompy lace-up boots.

But the new maxi really came into its own on the high street thanks to the success of cult brands, such as the Scandinavian favourite Ganni and Rixo, co-founded by Derry-born designer Orlagh McCloskey.

You’ll likely have seen those signature wrap dresses and vintage-inspired prints at any number of weddings and occasions in the last couple of years, but the hemline lends itself just as well to more casual looks when worn with trainers and a utility jacket.

The midi has become one of the defining silhouettes of the decade, although for some women, the mid-calf length can be unforgiving and, depending on your shape, accentuate the widest part of the leg.

This new hybrid gives the best of both worlds, focusing the eye on the slimmest point of the leg, while also being far more practical than the classic maxi, which can leave you feeling underdressed or overdressed, but rarely just right for the event. Whatever your height, it’s worth getting a shop-bought style altered so it falls to the correct spot.

For summer, keep the ankle bare to take advantage of the figure-flattering effect. At Wimbledon, Joely Richardson opted for a gently flared maxi in bubblegum pink, covered in black polka dots. It was a gorgeously playful print, but the mock neck, balloon sleeves and elegant silhouette gave it an easy sophistication. A pair of white woven pumps and a Dior saddle bag completed the look, rendering it a touch more laid-back for a day at the tennis.

On her press tour for Once Upon A Time In… Hollywood, Margot Robbie stepped out in a white lace Chanel gown, making the most of the ankle-skimming hem with shiny silver sandals. Another bonus of the new maxi is the opportunity to show off a great pair of shoes. Zara has a similar metallic style, which would look just as chic with a pretty lace gown or a shirt dress. On Margot, the shorter length drains some of the stuffiness, somehow making a structured lace dress with couture armbands look low-key.

Sienna Miller opted for a floral Sonia Rykiel gown with a cape overlay for a summer cocktail party, and the result is darkly romantic and classically feminine. In the brand’s lookbook, Rykiel styled the dress with block-heeled ankle boots, a thick waist belt and a neat snakeskin handbag, illustrating how versatile the new maxi can be.

When the temperatures start to fall, you can swap your strappy sandals for a knee boot and a cardigan, which will help to relax the look while also coming across effortlessly stylish.

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Nikolaj Coster-Waldau Reads ‘In a Charmed Life, a Road Less Traveled’

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Driving to his family’s summer home in Rhode Island, Layng Martine Jr. was delayed by an awful accident. He took a back road to avoid traffic, unaware that he was passing by his wife’s car crash.

On this week’s Modern Love podcast, the actor Nikolaj Coster-Waldau reads Mr. Martine’s 2009 essay, “In a Charmed Life, a Road Less Traveled.” It’s a story about finding joy while adjusting to the challenges of a new reality.

Mr. Coster-Waldau played the character Jaime Lannister in HBO’s “Game of Thrones.” Mr. Martine is a songwriter in Nashville and the author of the memoir “Permission to Fly.” Stay tuned after the reading to hear more from him, Mr. Coster-Waldau and the Modern Love editor Daniel Jones.

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Are Hippies the New Goths?

All smiles in their ribbon-and-lace-trimmed mini-dresses, the three winsome young women could not have been more eye-catching. That they were members of the Manson clan, photographed, hair swinging, on their way to court, is chilling of course. But fashion, perversely, cannot look away.

Like the culture at large, the style world has been fixated of late on these and other profoundly unsettling representations of the 1960s counterculture, designers and marketers viscerally drawn to hippiedom’s sketchily improvised manner and style, intent, it would seem, on exploring its dark side.

Indeed, there’s a lot to suggest that, to some minds at least, hippies are fashion’s new Goths.

Creepy variations on this enduring archetype began turning up more than a year ago as the subjects of “Wild Wild Country,” a Netflix documentary series about Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and his flamboyant, often lawless followers. Today hippies lurk in the shadows on the USA Network series “The Sinner,” its commune-dwelling populace “hypnotizing you,” as one character puts it, “so you don’t even know who you are.”

Similarly spooky latter-day misfits practice occult rituals in the full light of day in “Midsommar,” a film about a pagan community ensconced in the remote Swedish countryside. And hippies are a particularly toxic presence in a flurry of films and television shows revisiting the Manson family with a prurient eye.

“Charlie Says,” Mary Harron’s biographical drama, is largely focused on Manson’s profoundly troubled female acolytes. “Once Upon a Time … in Hollywood,” Quentin Tarantino’s unnerving summer release, hurls its audience straight into the heart of the infamous Spahn ranch, with its haphazardly outfitted denizens. Witchy in their crocheted tops, frayed cutoffs and muumuus, Charlie’s girls, as they were known, mind the ranch, thumb rides in the desert and offer themselves on no more than a whim to bewildered passers-by.

They share a psychic and aesthetic bond with a brooding type that has long existed in the literary imagination. Sasha, a minor character in “The Last of Her Kind,” Sigrid Nunez’s novel about coming of age in the era of Manson, was a striking figure, “with masses of dark, wild, wavy hair.” Never without a cigarette and always in black, she liked to mix leather and lace.

It is not by chance that Sasha and her brooding sisterhood have been resurrected on the runways, designers investigating both the somber and more garishly festive aspects of cult and commune culture. In the 2020 resort collections Missoni unveiled, among other dour looks, a midi-length coatdress the color of blood pulled over tapestry flares; Gucci highlighted pajama-style tunics and harem pants; and Coach clambered on board with a black and a claret-tone update on the billowy granny dress.

All of that is to say nothing of the floral-patterned maxi-dresses cropping up at fast fashion outposts like Zara and the homespun vests, frayed cutoffs and fringe-festooned Western jackets for sale at Forever 21.

Like its counterculture progenitors, the look smacks of escapism mingled with a moody pessimism. Its recent doomy associations have given rise to a proliferation of shroudish garments, trinkets and amulets, some that evoke the Source, that eerie ’70s Los Angeles cult, its members draped in shapeless white robes and pendants, heads garlanded in flowers.

What could account for fashion’s ghoulish fascination with these vagabond styles and subcultures?

The trend is obliquely related to the modesty movement, one high on puffed or belled sleeves, smocklike frocks and ankle-skimming hemlines. It is, in its most recent incarnations, embraced for its currency and social cachet. Simultaneously starchy and louche, the look is meant to be subversive.

Hippie style, at its most feverishly vibrant, strikes a similarly dissonant chord that resonates with the fashion tribes. That disharmony has long captivated designers — Yves Saint Laurent and Alexander McQueen the most obvious among them — using the runway to battle their demons, suggested Cassidy Zachary, a fashion historian and specialist in the fashions of the ’60s youth quake.

“With their smiling faces, long manes and flirty mini-dresses, hippies can seem at once both beautiful and horrific,” Ms. Zachary said.

“Fashion is one place where you can explore those contradictions,” she said. “The counterculture’s unlikely fusion of darkness and glamour was fascinating in the ’60s. And it’s fascinating now.”

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